A Mothers Self Care

What do I need right now? In the moment self-care

As mothers, we’re great at asking what our children need right now. Are they hungry, cold or tired? Do they need a hug, reassurance, some quiet time, or a chance to run around outside?
But how often do we ask “what do I need right now?”.
This is an incredibly valuable self-care question.

When you first become a mum, it’s inevitable that all of your priorities change in an instant without you even having to think about it. Suddenly you’re responsible for an actual human being, and when your mothering instincts kick in there’s no ignoring them, but to be the best parent possible, you have to take some time for yourself.

It can be difficult to find the time, and a lot of mums experience feelings of guilt about taking time for themselves. Self-care is so important, especially for parents, and with these top tips, you’ll find the time to rejuvenate yourself effectively.

What does Self-Care mean to You?
First of all, you’ll want to figure out what self-care actually means to you. It looks different to everybody who does it, dependant on what their preferences are.
Are you looking for quiet time by yourself or do you want to connect with a friend and have some fun, do you want to get out of the house or stay at home? Do you want to do something pyhysical or something that will just give your mind a break and a change?
If you find yourself busy with your children and don’t want to take much time for yourself, but feel like you need a boost, it really doesn’t have to be time consuming!
Self-care can be something as small as taking ten minutes to sit out in the morning sun with a cup of tea, or washing and changing your bedsheets so that when bedtime does finally come around, you get into a lovely fresh bed that smells delightful, ready for a restful sleep. The smallest of acts sometimes have the biggest impact on your mental state for the day, so take the time for yourself – however small it may be.

Make Your Life Easier

It might sound silly, but the simple act of being more organised can take a lot of pressure off you on a day-to-day basis, so that you can then maybe find time for some fun.
Self-care is all about relieving stress and having more time to yourself, so if you do your research, you’ll be able to do this whatever the circumstances!

Do Some Exercise

You don’t have to become a long-distance cross-country runner in order to get fitter, and to get those endorphins going! It’s surprising how much difference even a twenty-minute long quick-paced walk can make to your overall fitness and mental state.
It’s one of those annoying things, when you say you want to practice some self-care and immediately, you’re told: “well do some exercise” – especially if you’re not the active type. However, it is scientifically proven that exercising helps you to produce endorphins, and therefore can make you feel happier and affect your overall mood, so I’m sorry, but in this case they are right!

Pamper Yourself
You don’t have to go to a spa to feel thoroughly pampered. Last of all, but certainly not least, take some time in the evening to make yourself feel well pampered.
Once the kids are in bed, have a hot bath, put on some clean pyjamas, and maybe even do a face mask or paint your nails! Being a Mum is truly exhausting, so if anyone deserves to feel pampered, it’s you.
Remember: you can take time for yourself – it’s not selfish.